Wednesday, January 7, 2015


While at times, I have the “patience of a saint”, I am not the most patient person on the planet.

I hate standing in lines, never feel the computer or TV remote responds fast enough, and certainly had trouble waiting throughout the adoption process. After all, if I could have gotten pregnant, I would already have children.

Not all adoption processes are smooth sailing. Some have bumps in the road. Some have downright road blocks. And, weathering the process is not always easy.

There were days I never thought it would happen - that I wasn’t meant to be a mother. Days of doubts, fears and times I stayed away from any event or place I might see a baby or pregnant woman.

There were days that I was so excited, I could hardly sit still. I would compare cribs and changing tables, look at layettes and clothing, dream of nursery themes and read books about baby and child care.

I tried to remember that adoption works and that when the time was right I would be a mother. And it did - the process worked – twice for me. I adopted 2 infant girls 3 ½ years apart. They were worth the wait.

Kathy Ann Brodsky, LCSW is a social worker, adoptive mom and advocate for ethical adoption practice. She has prepared thousands of adoption homestudies, counseled adoptive parents and parents-to-be, and has trained professionals to work with adoptive families. She was named an “Angel in Adoption” by the Congressional Coalition on Adoption in 2001 and has a private practice in New York City. She has been Director of the Ametz Adoption Program of JCCA since 1992. You can follow her at or email her at