Martin
Luther King, Jr. Day and the upcoming presidential election dominated the media
this week. I was struck by an overarching theme: equality is a basic
American value, and the fight for it is essential to ensure inherent rights to
all our citizens. The same theme resonates
when we navigate challenging situations.
Hatred, prejudice, and discrimination are wrong. No
segment of our population should be treated differently because of their race,
religion, sexual orientation or family values. People are people. If we invested our energy in working together
rather than in working against one another we could achieve great things.
Adoption is one of the areas where prejudice rears
its ugly head. Adoptive parents are seen as inadequate because they have been
unable to reproduce; birth parents are adjudged irresponsible for getting
pregnant and being unable to raise their children; and adoptees deemed less worthy
than birth children. What would happen if society took on the mantra – “it
takes a village”? Then it would be our
collective responsibility to ensure that every child was raised in a loving
family who would meet all their needs. It would not matter which family raised
them. This worldview would, in turn, change the perception of
adoption. Children would simply be granted the relationships they need to grow and
thrive. No labels. No judgments.
Skin
color, religious beliefs, sexual orientation, or any other such category would
no longer matter. Only one thing would count: the presence of an
adult to meet a child’s needs and to love
them for whom they were. To return to the original inspiration for these
thoughts, such a society would reflect our American value of equality
and realize the vision of MLK who wanted each individual judged solely by “the content of their character.”
Kathy Ann Brodsky, LCSW is a New York and New Jersey licensed social worker, adoptive mom and advocate for ethical adoption practice. She has prepared thousands of adoption homestudies, counseled adoptive parents and parents-to-be, and has trained professionals to work with adoptive families. She was Director of the Ametz Adoption Program from March 1992 to March 2015. She is Head Writer for Adoption.net, member of the Adoption Advisory Board of Path2Parenthood and has a private practice in New York City. She was a member of the Advisory Board for POV’s Adoption Series and named an “Angel in Adoption” by the Congressional Coalition on Adoption in 2001. Follow or reach her at ADOPTION MAVEN BLOG or EMAIL.
