Thursday, May 7, 2015


I am your mother. I have taken care of you from the day you were placed in my arms. I have fed and clothed you. I have taken care of you when you were ill. I have laughed with you when you expressed delight and joy. I have helped you try out new things, pursue your interests, and develop your skills. I have introduced you to family and friends of all ages. I have chosen caretakers and schools and activities to build your social skills and widen your horizons. I told you about your adoption and answered your questions. I will always be here for you.

She is your mother, too.  She brought you into this world. She made a difficult and courageous decision to provide you with a better life than she had to offer.  She gave you your beautiful eyes and hair. She gave you your talents and abilities. She gave me a gift that pales in comparison to no other. She chose me to be your mother.

We may meet or not, may be in touch or not, may coordinate visits or not, but  we will always have you in our hearts. We will always be your mothers.

Kathy Ann Brodsky, LCSW is a New York and New Jersey licensed social worker, adoptive mom and advocate for ethical adoption practice. She has prepared thousands of adoption homestudies, counseled adoptive parents and parents-to-be, and has trained professionals to work with adoptive families. She was Director of the Ametz Adoption Program from March 1992 to March 2015. She is Head Writer for, on the Adoption Advisory Board of Path2Parenthood and has a private practice in New York City She was named an “Angel in Adoption” by the Congressional Coalition on Adoption in 2001. Follow or reach her at ADOPTION MAVEN BLOG or EMAIL.